A few weeks ago I told all of you I would be writing a blog that was important to me. Something that I had to process. Well I can't give away the entire story really, because the person(s) it involves occasionally reads this blog (it was so much more liberating when no one read this haha). However, the results were the following:
As a woman, you tend to have unrealistic expectations. Make no mistake between the difference of high standards for yourself, others, your career, etc and UNREALISTIC expectations. Expectations about your figure, clothes, hair, eyes, and most importantly love. If you're like 99% of women, we dream up this fairy tale romance. The man we marry will have to look a certain way, have a certain career, family, car, and love for doing the dishes (ok maybe that is just me ;P ) Most commonly however, we think the WAY we fall in love will be a certain way. You know, "knocks you off your feet, grand slam, out of the park, world series kinda stuff!" ( who is excited about baseball season?! This girl.). No but really, we ALL think that is how its going to happen. Well I am here to tell you, physical chemistry is not love. Not when that is all you have. Having a MAN guard YOUR heart about his OWN beats "the spark" every time. Sometimes you will fall in love a bit more slowly (make no mistake, if its the right thing, the "ah ha!" moment WILL come). Sometimes, it isn't what you "thought" it would be. Have the where-with-all to recognize a wonderful opportunity when you see one. Don't let running into an ex, or being sought out by someone you used to "crush" on throw you off. Just because you "fell" in a different way does not make it any less magical. Or "less" in any way come to think of it.
God places every person in your life with a purpose. They make you aware of things, help you learn about yourself, help you WORK ON your flaws in character and in personality. God has shown me that in the last two months. It truly is the best feeling to realizes He has healed your heart from past, sometimes recent past, events. It is one of the sweetest moments in life. You will never feel stronger.
To close, be strong in your feelings. you know yourself better than anyone. At the risk of sounds EXTREMELY cliche and cheesy, trust your heart. Listen to it. Your gut feeling will tell you right every time. Be open to doing things differently than you planned. You'll enjoy life so much more that way.
Song: A Little Bit Stronger by Leighton Meester
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I Do by Ty Herndon
